Sharing Life

It's hard to find some one to share life with that is willing to be you partner. Most people want to lead in a relationship instead of sharing the responsibilities equally. From the way you treat someone to the way they treat you. All this has to be equal you can expect some one just to go with yours or others vision of how a relationship should go. This is one sided and not really know what you want even though you think it might be exactly what you want it life if its not decided on together then you really don't know what you want either. To find out exactly what you want out of life and the direction you want to go you must sit down with your partner and discover this path together so you can both feel you have input and build a life together you both can be proud of . This sounds so easy bit it actually if one of the most difficult things in life your ever do because it's very easy to jump out ahead of your partner and start going down a path thinking they are right there within you when they are actually confused and unhappy cause they feel they have been left behind and it's all your way. The only thing I can say Is you have to be honest and listen to each other and pause and make sure you respect that person enough to stop and ask if like we're we are and were we are going together. I have been in both positions lately without even knowing it so the roles you play can change without even knowing it. Just be patient with each other and listen without prejudice and talk without leading or sounding like its your way or the highway cause 9 times out of ten it will lead to the highway. I am by no means an expert and I am constantly learning from my best friend who has showed me that a strong bond is admitting that you don't know the answers or how your feeling. This is not a bad thing it's a learning thing and if your willing to learn you will be one of those people that has a 30 or 50 wedding anniversary if you have looked around lately you'll know there are not that many of those around any more but there are plenty of two three four time divorces. I know because I come from one already and don't plan on repeating that again. The next time will be the last because I learned to listen and learn from my partner who is my best friend.

Best Friend

    How do you show your love for your best friend without overwhelming them.  I have recently come to a stage in my life where I have been lucky enough to find someone that has been everything that a best friend should be and more.  She has become the most amazing person in my life that I have ever known.  What I have come to understand is that not only has she become my best friend to me and my kids she has started a great career and done some pretty amazing things along the way.  She sounds pretty great right? Well she is but here lately I have done nothing but point out all the flaws and problems that I have seen in our relationship making her feel like she never does anything right and every time she tries she fails.  Even today I made a big deal because when we txt each other she did not say she loved me.  I have discovered that I am pretty vain and have become very insecure since I let my first marriage fail so miserably.  Its really hard to come back from that especially when you have two great kids that you feel like your letting down every time they see you.  Thats were this amazing woman came into my life and basically told me to stop feeling sorry for myself lifted me up help me put my kids first and make me feel like I deserved her.  I am by far not the perfect guy and do and say things every day to prove that Im not.  she is at a wedding this weekend spending time with family and friends that if I would have been best friend to her I would be at too.  All I can say is that I am becoming a better person each day I am with this amazing woman, how could one not.  I hope she realizes that she is so special to me and that she shows me that in some small way each day that is not as small as she thinks.  I am writing this to let her know that she is my best friend and always has my heart.  I will strive every day to be a better best friend and fill your live with more joy and happiness as you build your life.  It is my goal to write something every day about us what what I see that we have done for each other.
Love,

P.S. Ill carry your bag and set up your projector for you when you become the brilliant presenter that I know you will.

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Love

I believe that love finds you, you don't find it. It finds you when it wants to on its terms. True love is out of your control, you don't realize that you have found it until some time later, you realize that its always been there from the very first time she smiled at you. It was truly love at first sight you just didn't know it yet. It fell into my life at the worst possible time, at least thats what I thought. It turned out it was the perfect time, she became my best friend over night.

Life's Helping Hand

Some times we find ourself feeling blue or feeling the pressures of life weighing on our shoulders. I feel that we this happens you must quiet your mind and listen to whats around you. I've noticed life's helping hand comes in many different forms. Some times it maybe the perfect song that finds you and speaks to your situations or that txt from someone saying they have been in your situation and it will get better. This is so simple but can be just what you need to lift you up help you face the next day because it may not seem it at the time but it does get better it just takes time and boy does it move slow when your waiting on it to get better. Just remember that helping hand that finds you and pass it on, be that next person lift when they need it.

Whats Around The Corner

We all move thru life not knowing whats around the next corner. This can be scary because the unknown makes us afraid to take chances in our life. This can be our biggest roadblock in life and most of the time it is our own selves that stand in our way of being great. We live our lives trying to reach what is to come next or what is around the next corner for us. I believe this is why we get that feeling of not accomplishing anything, that time is flying by and we are not going to get to all the great things we thought we set out to do. The funny thing about this is that this feeling in itself is what stands in our way of living in the moment and seeing those great things that we are doing now. The great things that are right in front of us that are happening in the here and now. Don't worry so much about whats around the next corner, open your eyes and see what was around the last corner you turned and the next one will be less of a fear.

life's Dreams

The dreams that you have when your a kid are the biggest thing you look forward to when you grow up. As we get older it seems that these dreams slip away from us or get lost. I believe that we must not loose site of these dreams, sure they may shift from their original visions but we must learn to move with them. Life would not be worth living with out the art of dreaming and not knowing if the dream will come true makes it that much better when it does. We must not loose sight of the simple force that are our dreams.