Sharing Life

It's hard to find some one to share life with that is willing to be you partner. Most people want to lead in a relationship instead of sharing the responsibilities equally. From the way you treat someone to the way they treat you. All this has to be equal you can expect some one just to go with yours or others vision of how a relationship should go. This is one sided and not really know what you want even though you think it might be exactly what you want it life if its not decided on together then you really don't know what you want either. To find out exactly what you want out of life and the direction you want to go you must sit down with your partner and discover this path together so you can both feel you have input and build a life together you both can be proud of . This sounds so easy bit it actually if one of the most difficult things in life your ever do because it's very easy to jump out ahead of your partner and start going down a path thinking they are right there within you when they are actually confused and unhappy cause they feel they have been left behind and it's all your way. The only thing I can say Is you have to be honest and listen to each other and pause and make sure you respect that person enough to stop and ask if like we're we are and were we are going together. I have been in both positions lately without even knowing it so the roles you play can change without even knowing it. Just be patient with each other and listen without prejudice and talk without leading or sounding like its your way or the highway cause 9 times out of ten it will lead to the highway. I am by no means an expert and I am constantly learning from my best friend who has showed me that a strong bond is admitting that you don't know the answers or how your feeling. This is not a bad thing it's a learning thing and if your willing to learn you will be one of those people that has a 30 or 50 wedding anniversary if you have looked around lately you'll know there are not that many of those around any more but there are plenty of two three four time divorces. I know because I come from one already and don't plan on repeating that again. The next time will be the last because I learned to listen and learn from my partner who is my best friend.